The Guest List

So the wedding is basically three months away. (scary)

We had wanted to send Save the Dates since the wedding is on a holiday weekend, but that never came to fruition.

Wedding etiquette says that invitations should be sent two months preceding the nuptials but since we never sent the save the dates, I'd like to get them out two and half to three months before the date. SO...this means I need to get cracking since, May is basically over (yeah when did that happen).

I have my sister's guest list and my mother's Christmas card list and I've combined them. I've highlighted names of people I don't recognize. But the list remains at about 160 invites. Now, 160 invites isn't bad but when you sit down to consider that basically almost every invite includes 2 or more people, the list gets longer and scarier.

I want my wedding to be big, but not that big. I want to have fun but I don't want my parents to go broke. So the question is...who gets cut?

I want as many people as possible to come. I know a lot of people care about me and a lot care about fiance. I'm at such a loss. Is it crazy for me to believe that most of those 160 invites won't show? I mean there are a lot of out of town invitees so maybe they'll not want to give up their holiday weekend. But I know that if I count on that, they'll make plans to come.

So, yeah, frustrations have started. I promised myself I wouldn't get overwhelmed but it may be inevitable.

Oh yeah, I got an e-mail from my father about a family friend that may be able to play harp at the wedding. If she can swing it she may be able to get two other people and we could have a trio. We'll see...